How to Please a Woman in Bed

Pleasing a woman in bed is a very complex and tricky objective.

And, frankly, most guys just don't get it.

In fact, being able to please a woman in bed - I mean REALLY please her - is a lot more than just knowing the right spots to hit to give her multiple, mind-blowing orgasms (although that certainly helps).

In a nutshell, it's being able to connect with her on a number of levels in a significant way that will give her the best night of her life.

Before you run for the hills, please understand that I'm not saying you have to be in love with each other, or anything like that. You can definitely please a woman in bed the very first time you guys sleep together. It will usually be harder to do that than to please a woman you've been seeing for a long time and know a little better, but that's to be expected - the longer you spend with someone (and the more sex you have), your sex life should improve accordingly.

So What Does "Pleasing" a Woman in Bed Entail?

I used to think that the secret to pleasing a woman sexually was all a numbers game - give them as many incredible orgasms as I could in an hour or two, and let them bask in the afterglow.

Whilst those kinds of nights were a lot of fun, for both one of us, I have been fortunate enough to have experiences and feedback since then that has proven to me that this is not the ultimate in sexual satisfaction for a woman.

The Secret

The secret to pleasing a woman in bed is, if taken at face value, rather complex. However, if we break it down to its simplest form, the whole secret can be summed up in a single word.

Passion.

As corny as it may sound to you, having that amazing, passionate moment when it's almost as if both of you are sharing the same head space is a truly miraculous moment. Whilst it does not necessarily require mutual love, there is certainly a chemistry that has to exist in order for this kind of passion to blossom.

Of course, in our day to day lives it's easy to lose the passion from many aspects of our relationship, not just the sex. Somehow in between paying bills, meeting our commitments, study, work, and family we often don't make the time we should for good sex, and settle into a dull, monotonous routine that isn't fulfilling for either party.

What You Can Do to Have Amazing Sex

The first step to having this amazing, nigh-miraculous sex and truly pleasing your woman in the bedroom is to put in the effort to ensure you have an environment in which the kind of passion I am talking about can blossom.

Try setting aside an evening to have sex. Make whatever preparations you need to to ensure you have the house to yourselves. Make sure you really set the mood - your favorite music, a romantic candlelit dinner, a bubble bath together, or even just taking some time to cuddle up on the couch and watch TV together can all do wonders to help subconsciously get you attuned to each other and build the sexual anticipation.

When the time is right you can begin some slow, sensual foreplay and eventually lead into the main event itself. One point that is very important throughout this whole process is that you have to make a real, honest effort to connect in a solid way with your partner and her wants. Try and communicate to her without words how much you want to be with her tonight and how much you want her to enjoy it. The way you look at her, the way you touch her, your eyes - all these things will be subconsciously broadcasting signals to her based on your mindset and attitude, so make sure you are coming from a place of mutual respect and friendship. At the same time, as you're the man, it is usually up to you to take control - be firm but gentle in all of your dealings with her tonight, and I guarantee she'll be worshipping you in the morning.

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Article originally published here: The Secrets to Pleasing a Woman in Bed.

How to Be Good In Bed With a Girl - How to Give Her the Best Sex She's Ever Had!

We've all, at some time or another, had a close female friend who has told us about her latest sexual exploits.

And every now and then, she'll talk about the guy that was "good in bed".

I say guy, because, for most girls, there's usually only the one. After all, guys who know their way around the bedroom aren't usually easy to find.

So what, exactly, makes a guy qualified as "good in bed"? Is it the size of his, er, "equipment"? Is it how many orgasms he is able to give her? Is it the fact that he has remarkable sexual stamina?

No, no, and no.

These things may help, sure. Then again, they may not. Being well endowed myself I can tell you it doesn't always work out as well as you might hope (some girls just can't handle it). And some of the best sex I've ever had (and given) has clocked in at under ten minutes.

And, contrary to what you may think, orgasms are not the be-all and end-all for a woman. Although they are a nice bonus.

Being good in bed with a girl is something that has a lot of different factors. Being able to check one box won't necessarily signify anything significant - it's a situation where the whole is definitely greater than the sum of its parts.

Some General Principles

*Care about her pleasure. It seems like a basic rule, and most of you reading this will probably have figured this one out already (or else why would you be here?) but sometimes in the throes of passion we can forget. If you want to make a good impression on her, make sure she is taken care of before you worry about yourself. Pay attention and communicate about what she does and doesn't like, and endeavour to give her pleasure before you seek it for yourself.

*Don't be a wuss. Whilst I'm not advocating being a chauvinist pig, there is millions of years of genetic programming in our bodies that some things just can't override - especially during a primitive, primal act like sex. Take the lead and tell the girl what you want them to do, and be the one to make the first moves and suggest positions. Believe me, if a girl has a problem with what you are doing, she will make her objection known very plainly - and if you obey her wishes and stop when she asks, odds are she won't make a big deal about it and will just chalk it up to a communication error. And if she doesn't - do you really want to be hanging out with her anyway?

*Be confident. If you're worried about if your gut is showing, or if you are big enough, or that you're going to ejaculate prematurely, DON'T. These kinds of things come through very plainly and is a sure-fire way to kill the mood you worked so hard to establish.

*Make sure you talk to her. Tell her how hot she is, how good she makes you feel - if you are feeling bold, try sprinkling a little dirty talk into the mix and see if she reacts in a good way. If she does, keep using it - especially as a psychological trigger to push her "over the edge" when she's about to climax.

More importantly than all this, just have fun and enjoy the experience. It's sex, not a calculus exam. If you bump elbows, or funny noises happen, just laugh about it and keep going. After all, isn't that what good sex is all about - enjoyment?

Believe me, there is no need to be embarrassed about not being able to give your partner the kind of mind-blowing, earth-shattering multiple orgasms that you KNOW she craves. If you want to be able to make her orgasm harder, faster, and easier than ever before, why not join the thousands of men just like you that we have already helped and visit us simply by clicking here.

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Article originally published here: How to be Good In Bed.