Before I reveal to you the 3 best ways to make your woman orgasm, there's something important you need to know.
In my line of work, I talk to a lot of women on a fairly regular basis. One of the biggest mistakes that guys make when it comes to sex (and believe me, there's a lot of them) is that they expect their "moves" will work on every single girl they come across.
Clearly, this is completely inaccurate. Every woman is different and they all have their own individual likes and dislikes, fetishes, fantasies and so forth. One sure-fire way to turn a girl off is to stop listening to her and her body and just go through the motions with moves that you think will rock her world.
Having said all that, the techniques that follow have been very successful in my (and my clients') endeavours for pleasing women in the bedroom. However, remember, the golden rule of sex is to pay attention to what your partner says, and what her body tells you. Discard this rule at your own peril!
1. Kissing Her on the Lips Between the Hips
Good cunilingus is one of the most amazing sensations a woman will ever feel. Unfortunately however, many women have an inherent discomfort associated with this act. Half the time when a girl is getting head there are all sorts of sexually non-conductive thoughts going through her head. Things like "Do I smell down there?" or "What if I thrust too hard and break his nose" or "It's been way too long since I shaved" really can kill the mood. To combat this, tell her every step of the way how much you want to do it, how much it turns you on, and how much you are enjoying it, and so on.
Also be aware that everything down there is incredibly sensitive. Whilst you definitely want to focus attention on the clitoris, using too much force or even spending too much time on it can be a very uncomfortable sensation. Try and ensure that you give the other parts of her vagina a decent amount of attention as well, although it is usually the clitoris that will send her "over the edge", so be aware to focus more attention on that when she is closer to climaxing.
2. Pillows - Not Just for Your Head
Many people give up way too easily on the missionary position, accusing it of being "bland", "vanilla", and "boring".
Whilst I personally have never felt that way (nor has any woman I've been with), it is true that for the female the missionary position can often be lacking in sexual stimulation. To remedy this, put a pillow under her butt. This will angle her hips upward slightly, which will allow your penis to give rhythmic stimulation to her G Spot. Needless to say, this is a good thing.
This missionary position also allows you to be in control of her stimulation, which can be useful if she tends to lose control of her muscle control when she gets close to climax. Not only does it allow you to go as fast, slow, deep, or gently as you like, you are also in a position where it doesn't take a great deal of energy for thrusting, which allows you to go for longer without tiring out - essential for the women who take a long time to reach climax.
3. A Different Kind of Pillow Talk
"Dirty Talk" is often overlooked by couples, with disastrous results in the bedroom. Before you hit the back button in your browser, let's make one thing clear - dirty talk does NOT have to be lifted straight out of a bad 80's porno (and in fact, if it is, it will probably do more harm than good).
Talking dirty doesn't even mean you have to use profanity, let alone describe things in the kinds of detail that would make a miner blush (although you may find that kind of talk useful, too). At its core dirty talk works as a kind of mental aid, helping you keep your woman's mind focused on the sensations of the sexual intercourse, instead of worrying about how big her butt is or how much noise she's making. It also allows you to gauge her reaction based on what you are doing to her ("How does that feel, baby?") and finally acts as a "mental trigger". Basically, when she gets very close to climax, telling her that you want her to orgasm not only helps increase her arousal and get her across the finish line, it allows you to subconsciously reassure her that you do indeed want her to orgasm, which will help get around any subsconsciously ingrained fears of it she may have (such as worrying that she will say or look silly).
Believe me, there is no need to be embarrassed about not being able to give your partner the kind of mind-blowing, earth-shattering multiple orgasms that you KNOW she craves. If you want to be able to make her orgasm harder, faster, and easier than ever before, why not join the thousands of men just like you that we have already helped and visit us simply by clicking here.
If you want more powerful, free information on how you can give your partner incredibly powerful orgasms without fail, then feel free to check out our other articles on ways to make women orgasm.
Article originally published here: Best Ways to Make a Woman Orgasm.
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Saturday, February 14, 2009
How to Please a Woman in Bed
Pleasing a woman in bed is a very complex and tricky objective.
And, frankly, most guys just don't get it.
In fact, being able to please a woman in bed - I mean REALLY please her - is a lot more than just knowing the right spots to hit to give her multiple, mind-blowing orgasms (although that certainly helps).
In a nutshell, it's being able to connect with her on a number of levels in a significant way that will give her the best night of her life.
Before you run for the hills, please understand that I'm not saying you have to be in love with each other, or anything like that. You can definitely please a woman in bed the very first time you guys sleep together. It will usually be harder to do that than to please a woman you've been seeing for a long time and know a little better, but that's to be expected - the longer you spend with someone (and the more sex you have), your sex life should improve accordingly.
So What Does "Pleasing" a Woman in Bed Entail?
I used to think that the secret to pleasing a woman sexually was all a numbers game - give them as many incredible orgasms as I could in an hour or two, and let them bask in the afterglow.
Whilst those kinds of nights were a lot of fun, for both one of us, I have been fortunate enough to have experiences and feedback since then that has proven to me that this is not the ultimate in sexual satisfaction for a woman.
The Secret
The secret to pleasing a woman in bed is, if taken at face value, rather complex. However, if we break it down to its simplest form, the whole secret can be summed up in a single word.
Passion.
As corny as it may sound to you, having that amazing, passionate moment when it's almost as if both of you are sharing the same head space is a truly miraculous moment. Whilst it does not necessarily require mutual love, there is certainly a chemistry that has to exist in order for this kind of passion to blossom.
Of course, in our day to day lives it's easy to lose the passion from many aspects of our relationship, not just the sex. Somehow in between paying bills, meeting our commitments, study, work, and family we often don't make the time we should for good sex, and settle into a dull, monotonous routine that isn't fulfilling for either party.
What You Can Do to Have Amazing Sex
The first step to having this amazing, nigh-miraculous sex and truly pleasing your woman in the bedroom is to put in the effort to ensure you have an environment in which the kind of passion I am talking about can blossom.
Try setting aside an evening to have sex. Make whatever preparations you need to to ensure you have the house to yourselves. Make sure you really set the mood - your favorite music, a romantic candlelit dinner, a bubble bath together, or even just taking some time to cuddle up on the couch and watch TV together can all do wonders to help subconsciously get you attuned to each other and build the sexual anticipation.
When the time is right you can begin some slow, sensual foreplay and eventually lead into the main event itself. One point that is very important throughout this whole process is that you have to make a real, honest effort to connect in a solid way with your partner and her wants. Try and communicate to her without words how much you want to be with her tonight and how much you want her to enjoy it. The way you look at her, the way you touch her, your eyes - all these things will be subconsciously broadcasting signals to her based on your mindset and attitude, so make sure you are coming from a place of mutual respect and friendship. At the same time, as you're the man, it is usually up to you to take control - be firm but gentle in all of your dealings with her tonight, and I guarantee she'll be worshipping you in the morning.
Believe me, there is no need to be embarrassed about not being able to give your partner the kind of mind-blowing, earth-shattering multiple orgasms that you KNOW she craves. If you want to be able to make her orgasm harder, faster, and easier than ever before, why not join the thousands of men just like you that we have already helped and visit us simply by clicking here.
If you want more powerful, free information on how you can give your partner incredibly powerful orgasms without fail, then feel free to check out our other articles on how to please a woman in bed.
Article originally published here: The Secrets to Pleasing a Woman in Bed.
And, frankly, most guys just don't get it.
In fact, being able to please a woman in bed - I mean REALLY please her - is a lot more than just knowing the right spots to hit to give her multiple, mind-blowing orgasms (although that certainly helps).
In a nutshell, it's being able to connect with her on a number of levels in a significant way that will give her the best night of her life.
Before you run for the hills, please understand that I'm not saying you have to be in love with each other, or anything like that. You can definitely please a woman in bed the very first time you guys sleep together. It will usually be harder to do that than to please a woman you've been seeing for a long time and know a little better, but that's to be expected - the longer you spend with someone (and the more sex you have), your sex life should improve accordingly.
So What Does "Pleasing" a Woman in Bed Entail?
I used to think that the secret to pleasing a woman sexually was all a numbers game - give them as many incredible orgasms as I could in an hour or two, and let them bask in the afterglow.
Whilst those kinds of nights were a lot of fun, for both one of us, I have been fortunate enough to have experiences and feedback since then that has proven to me that this is not the ultimate in sexual satisfaction for a woman.
The Secret
The secret to pleasing a woman in bed is, if taken at face value, rather complex. However, if we break it down to its simplest form, the whole secret can be summed up in a single word.
Passion.
As corny as it may sound to you, having that amazing, passionate moment when it's almost as if both of you are sharing the same head space is a truly miraculous moment. Whilst it does not necessarily require mutual love, there is certainly a chemistry that has to exist in order for this kind of passion to blossom.
Of course, in our day to day lives it's easy to lose the passion from many aspects of our relationship, not just the sex. Somehow in between paying bills, meeting our commitments, study, work, and family we often don't make the time we should for good sex, and settle into a dull, monotonous routine that isn't fulfilling for either party.
What You Can Do to Have Amazing Sex
The first step to having this amazing, nigh-miraculous sex and truly pleasing your woman in the bedroom is to put in the effort to ensure you have an environment in which the kind of passion I am talking about can blossom.
Try setting aside an evening to have sex. Make whatever preparations you need to to ensure you have the house to yourselves. Make sure you really set the mood - your favorite music, a romantic candlelit dinner, a bubble bath together, or even just taking some time to cuddle up on the couch and watch TV together can all do wonders to help subconsciously get you attuned to each other and build the sexual anticipation.
When the time is right you can begin some slow, sensual foreplay and eventually lead into the main event itself. One point that is very important throughout this whole process is that you have to make a real, honest effort to connect in a solid way with your partner and her wants. Try and communicate to her without words how much you want to be with her tonight and how much you want her to enjoy it. The way you look at her, the way you touch her, your eyes - all these things will be subconsciously broadcasting signals to her based on your mindset and attitude, so make sure you are coming from a place of mutual respect and friendship. At the same time, as you're the man, it is usually up to you to take control - be firm but gentle in all of your dealings with her tonight, and I guarantee she'll be worshipping you in the morning.
Believe me, there is no need to be embarrassed about not being able to give your partner the kind of mind-blowing, earth-shattering multiple orgasms that you KNOW she craves. If you want to be able to make her orgasm harder, faster, and easier than ever before, why not join the thousands of men just like you that we have already helped and visit us simply by clicking here.
If you want more powerful, free information on how you can give your partner incredibly powerful orgasms without fail, then feel free to check out our other articles on how to please a woman in bed.
Article originally published here: The Secrets to Pleasing a Woman in Bed.
How to Make a Woman Reach Orgasm
Whether you want better, longer-lasting, more frequent sex, or you just want to be able to give your woman the same incredible sexual pleasure that she gives (or that you want her to give) you, you're reading this article for one reason, and one reason only.
You want to know how to make a woman reach orgasm.
However, before we go any further, there's a fundamental flaw in this kind of thinking we have to correct.
You cannot MAKE a woman reach orgasm. You can, however, help her reach orgasm.
Some men can lead their women to orgasm, which could almost be classified as "making" her orgasm. However, the skills and expertise required to do this are quite complex. Usually, it is a last resort, because it is much easier and simpler to work with a woman, and have her help in unlocking her natural orgasmic state, than to have to do everything yourself.
The thing with leading a woman to orgasm is that you have to know exactly what you are doing. You need to know everything about female sexuality and the female sexual anatomy, how to effectively generate sexual tension, how to perform incredibly powerful foreplay, intimately know how to use all the female hot spots, and so on.
Helping a woman achieve orgasm, on the other hand, is much easier, because she will (hopefully) be somewhat attuned sexually with her body and be able to guide you, however slightly, towards what will push her over the edge.
Therefore, here are some of my best tips that you can use to give your woman incredible, multiple orgasms.
1. Communicate!
Every woman likes different things in the bedroom. Whilst you could spend hours and hours exploring her body and trying every single different technique you can think of (and you definitely should do that, at some point in your relationship), if you're just trying to get her to reach orgasm, why not try and shorten the learning curve for yourself?
If you're not sure if she likes what you're doing or not - ask her! If you wonder if she has a favorite position, let her tell you about it!
In fact, one of the best ways to communicate is through dirty talk. Not only does talking dirty add huge amounts of sexual tension to your sex, but it can also be used to get a feel for what is going right or wrong. Comments like "Do you that like, baby?" and "Oh yeah, I love it when you do that to me, it feels so good!", as well as your own creations, can go a long way to making sure you have the kinds of crazy sex you both crave.
2. Get Rid of Distractions
Women tend to think way too much during sex.
They think about all the pressures they have - deadlines for work, kids to look after, housework to do, bills to pay, how their thighs look from this angle, if their makeup is smudged, does that their butt look big in this light... and so on.
All these things get in the way of her naturally orgasmic state. Meaning, the more she's thinking, the less she's coming.
The counter to this is to retrain her mind to focus on her body and the way she's feeling. Light, sensuous touches that combine different kinds of sensations are a great way to do this. For example, running ice over a part of her body, then using your tongue (which is warm and she'll notice the contrast) is just one of the many ways you can get her to focus on the right stuff again.
3. Keep Things Fun
If she's trying too hard to orgasm, she won't. Remember that women enjoy the actual act of sex a lot - whether or not they orgasm. Obviously, you want to be able to give her powerful, mind-blowing orgasms as much as possible, but if she doesn't have one, it's not that big a deal.
Remember, sex is supposed to be fun, enjoyable, and pleasurable - keep it that way!
Believe me, there is no need to be embarrassed about not being able to give your partner the kind of mind-blowing, earth-shattering multiple orgasms that you KNOW she craves. If you want to be able to make her orgasm harder, faster, and easier than ever before, why not join the thousands of men just like you that we have already helped and visit us simply by clicking here.
If you want more powerful, free information on how you can give your partner incredibly powerful orgasms without fail, then feel free to check out our other articles on how to get a woman to reach orgasm.
Article originally published here: How to Make a Woman Reach Orgasm.
You want to know how to make a woman reach orgasm.
However, before we go any further, there's a fundamental flaw in this kind of thinking we have to correct.
You cannot MAKE a woman reach orgasm. You can, however, help her reach orgasm.
Some men can lead their women to orgasm, which could almost be classified as "making" her orgasm. However, the skills and expertise required to do this are quite complex. Usually, it is a last resort, because it is much easier and simpler to work with a woman, and have her help in unlocking her natural orgasmic state, than to have to do everything yourself.
The thing with leading a woman to orgasm is that you have to know exactly what you are doing. You need to know everything about female sexuality and the female sexual anatomy, how to effectively generate sexual tension, how to perform incredibly powerful foreplay, intimately know how to use all the female hot spots, and so on.
Helping a woman achieve orgasm, on the other hand, is much easier, because she will (hopefully) be somewhat attuned sexually with her body and be able to guide you, however slightly, towards what will push her over the edge.
Therefore, here are some of my best tips that you can use to give your woman incredible, multiple orgasms.
1. Communicate!
Every woman likes different things in the bedroom. Whilst you could spend hours and hours exploring her body and trying every single different technique you can think of (and you definitely should do that, at some point in your relationship), if you're just trying to get her to reach orgasm, why not try and shorten the learning curve for yourself?
If you're not sure if she likes what you're doing or not - ask her! If you wonder if she has a favorite position, let her tell you about it!
In fact, one of the best ways to communicate is through dirty talk. Not only does talking dirty add huge amounts of sexual tension to your sex, but it can also be used to get a feel for what is going right or wrong. Comments like "Do you that like, baby?" and "Oh yeah, I love it when you do that to me, it feels so good!", as well as your own creations, can go a long way to making sure you have the kinds of crazy sex you both crave.
2. Get Rid of Distractions
Women tend to think way too much during sex.
They think about all the pressures they have - deadlines for work, kids to look after, housework to do, bills to pay, how their thighs look from this angle, if their makeup is smudged, does that their butt look big in this light... and so on.
All these things get in the way of her naturally orgasmic state. Meaning, the more she's thinking, the less she's coming.
The counter to this is to retrain her mind to focus on her body and the way she's feeling. Light, sensuous touches that combine different kinds of sensations are a great way to do this. For example, running ice over a part of her body, then using your tongue (which is warm and she'll notice the contrast) is just one of the many ways you can get her to focus on the right stuff again.
3. Keep Things Fun
If she's trying too hard to orgasm, she won't. Remember that women enjoy the actual act of sex a lot - whether or not they orgasm. Obviously, you want to be able to give her powerful, mind-blowing orgasms as much as possible, but if she doesn't have one, it's not that big a deal.
Remember, sex is supposed to be fun, enjoyable, and pleasurable - keep it that way!
Believe me, there is no need to be embarrassed about not being able to give your partner the kind of mind-blowing, earth-shattering multiple orgasms that you KNOW she craves. If you want to be able to make her orgasm harder, faster, and easier than ever before, why not join the thousands of men just like you that we have already helped and visit us simply by clicking here.
If you want more powerful, free information on how you can give your partner incredibly powerful orgasms without fail, then feel free to check out our other articles on how to get a woman to reach orgasm.
Article originally published here: How to Make a Woman Reach Orgasm.
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