We've all, at some time or another, had a close female friend who has told us about her latest sexual exploits.
And every now and then, she'll talk about the guy that was "good in bed".
I say guy, because, for most girls, there's usually only the one. After all, guys who know their way around the bedroom aren't usually easy to find.
So what, exactly, makes a guy qualified as "good in bed"? Is it the size of his, er, "equipment"? Is it how many orgasms he is able to give her? Is it the fact that he has remarkable sexual stamina?
No, no, and no.
These things may help, sure. Then again, they may not. Being well endowed myself I can tell you it doesn't always work out as well as you might hope (some girls just can't handle it). And some of the best sex I've ever had (and given) has clocked in at under ten minutes.
And, contrary to what you may think, orgasms are not the be-all and end-all for a woman. Although they are a nice bonus.
Being good in bed with a girl is something that has a lot of different factors. Being able to check one box won't necessarily signify anything significant - it's a situation where the whole is definitely greater than the sum of its parts.
Some General Principles
*Care about her pleasure. It seems like a basic rule, and most of you reading this will probably have figured this one out already (or else why would you be here?) but sometimes in the throes of passion we can forget. If you want to make a good impression on her, make sure she is taken care of before you worry about yourself. Pay attention and communicate about what she does and doesn't like, and endeavour to give her pleasure before you seek it for yourself.
*Don't be a wuss. Whilst I'm not advocating being a chauvinist pig, there is millions of years of genetic programming in our bodies that some things just can't override - especially during a primitive, primal act like sex. Take the lead and tell the girl what you want them to do, and be the one to make the first moves and suggest positions. Believe me, if a girl has a problem with what you are doing, she will make her objection known very plainly - and if you obey her wishes and stop when she asks, odds are she won't make a big deal about it and will just chalk it up to a communication error. And if she doesn't - do you really want to be hanging out with her anyway?
*Be confident. If you're worried about if your gut is showing, or if you are big enough, or that you're going to ejaculate prematurely, DON'T. These kinds of things come through very plainly and is a sure-fire way to kill the mood you worked so hard to establish.
*Make sure you talk to her. Tell her how hot she is, how good she makes you feel - if you are feeling bold, try sprinkling a little dirty talk into the mix and see if she reacts in a good way. If she does, keep using it - especially as a psychological trigger to push her "over the edge" when she's about to climax.
More importantly than all this, just have fun and enjoy the experience. It's sex, not a calculus exam. If you bump elbows, or funny noises happen, just laugh about it and keep going. After all, isn't that what good sex is all about - enjoyment?
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Article originally published here: How to be Good In Bed.